It has often been said that you can only trust others when you trust yourself completely. Only he you have high self esteem and self confidence. Otherwise trusting others is one of the most difficult things to do. Thus it is important to teach children to trust themselves. And for this as a parent you need to keep reassuring them.
Reward them & appreciate them for every right and punish them gently for every wrong. Sometimes as parents we are so driven by the need to bring out the best in our children that we overlook whatever right they do, but are extremely quick to reprimand their wrongs. And this is where they lose their confidence. This is where they are unable to bring up their levels of self esteem.
When you acknowledge their achievements, no matter how big or small, they have faith in you; simply because they know that you are with them at every step. They will develop faith in anyone who stands by them like a shadow. Be their to hold their hand.
There are certain incidents in childhood that work best to inculcate trust in your child. One for example is when your toddler is taking his first steps. The little one when walking looks towards you and what you must do is wait at such a distance that he makes every attempt the first couple of steps and yet in case he is about to fall you can catch him on time.
Like this even in other activities like cycling and swimming, you have to be there as a buffer for your child so that he knows that you will help him lest he falls or he feels he will drown and yet, he builds up the self confidence to cycle or swim without your help.
It is only in the formative years that we can teach our child how to trust others by teaching them how to trust us. And in all this lies the most important virtue of self trust
Teaching your child trust
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